"Societywide institutions, like public education, do the same thing: presume we all think and learn like middle class people do, that we all work best as individuals in competition."
Classism results in things like middle class people who believe the only happy ending for working class people would be to "lift themselves up" and become middle class.
Classism also results in things like a person from an upper middle class background telling someone from a working class background who dares to challenge the utter naturalness and inevitability of the competition way of life, who dares to say that they personally prefer non-competitive ways of relating and getting along and having fun, that they are "actually being very competitive by saying that they prefer to be non-competitive."
How utterly solipsistic. How unthinkingly, unashamedly, breathtakingly classist. With condescension sauce on top, too.
(Yeah, that hit me on a sore spot. It's a long story. And they can just bite me.)
OK, onward to the rest of the book. You guys should get a copy, really.
2012-11-04 06:18 am (UTC)
2012-11-04 06:43 am (UTC)
:thinks:
:tosses a small sealed container of melted butter with Meyer lemon juice at you:
:grins:
2012-11-04 12:20 pm (UTC)
2012-11-04 01:56 pm (UTC)
My particular situation with that person aside, there are good things about either approach, in different circumstances. Like any other person with a moving-between-classes background, I've got some familiarity with both because I had to. Barb talks really well about how that can work, and about what internalized classism can cost a person, and how much it hurts. So when I resent being pushed into one way of being, it's in part because don't want to be forced to choose one thing over another just because of someone else deciding that their rules are the only rules.
Huh. And I have to go ponder that, because it set off a string of fireworks in my head. Hmm.
2012-11-04 05:30 pm (UTC)
Because, yeah. A whole big lot of that.
2012-11-04 04:23 pm (UTC)
I was raised "middle class" but thanks to this economy, I am just one paycheck away from being homeless. I think that classifies me as "working poor" and having to struggle and save up for any 'toys' (like replacing my laptop)
and yes, it sucks beyond the telling NOT being secure enough to have any sort of emergency funds. thankfully hurricane season is almost over but there's still the car needing new tyres and oil changes and ....
2012-11-04 04:30 pm (UTC)